Spoiler Free Review: Captain Fantastic

The movie introduces a family of seven who live in a remote part of the mountains. Collectively, they share different views of health, happiness, and the ways of life. The film challenges the viewer’s thoughts on proper parenting and what contributes to the long term success of a child. The family goes on an unexpected journey where they reevaluate how they live and compare it to that of others. What is considered an unfathomable way of living to some is what they value most.

Does that make it right? Is their lifestyle appropriate? What is home? All questions you may ask yourself as you watch the film.

The children are highly educated but lack social skills. Some of the film’s characters argue that these skills are key to surviving in the “real world”, where they are forced to face real problems. The father teaches them to embrace a natural lifestyle, participate in rigorous physical activity, and stick to an intense learning schedule. All in all, the children are brilliant human beings but is it too much?

The encounters with modern civilization allow the children to compare all they’ve ever known with what they’ll make of the outside world. Common themes such as visible health, food, and greed of the wealthy are intently highlighted in different parts of the film. Was it a bit dramatic at times? Yes. However, morbid obesity, greed, and narrow minds are a thing.

I appreciated the film and the focus on what makes a family, love. Different walks of life call for variety in what’s served at dinner, recreation, and the beliefs of the afterlife. There are multiple “rights” and they should be celebrated as the elements that make each family unique. Takeaways were to keep an open mind and learn from others. The experience of learning from someone else’s lifestyle may add significant value to your life. Share some of your valued family traditions below!

10 years old! Writing for therapy today…

Dear Maya, I woke up this morning with your beautiful face in mind. I cannot imagine what you would have looked like today. I can only remember your two year old face. The thought of not having that opportunity tears me up inside but the thought of YOU not having the opportunity to live hurts even more.

*Flips bird to cancer

I only wish to sit beside you and study your face, fold your ten year old clothes, and stop you and Alexandria from fighting over the remote. I wish for all of the headaches we complain about our children. They woke up too early! They didn’t eat their food! They got their clothes dirty!

It’s amazing how you touched so many lives in just 2 years. Over 300 people attended your funeral. The love you have given the world is the only thing that humbles me today. I am crying because I looked at a picture where you touched my face and I could still feel it. Yes, I felt the warmth of your hand. The pain is fresh even after all of these years. People ask if I only have one daughter and sometimes I say yes to avoid talking about it. I then feel a swarm of guilt for lying. It feels as though I am denying your existence. Yet, I know it’s part of the lifelong grief.

I have great memories of us together, good and bad. I just wanted to let you know that I haven’t forgotten and that I miss you everyday. I wish you were here with me. The pain of losing a child is nothing like you could ever imagine. The pain of watching them suffer for months and months before it makes it even more unbearable.

I know how sad it would make you to see me cry. You’d probably give me a hug or a kiss, inclined by your nurturing spirit. I will try to find comfort in that thought of you.

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I will always love you. Forever and always.

Love,

Mom

She’ll be in a better place soon.

I noticed it recently. Her reflexes were delayed. She didn’t connect with the world as fast as she used to. I tried watching her for a while, cleaning her up to see if she had too much baggage built up over time. Nothing has helped. Can the dell update I’ve avoided this week bring her back to life? It is scheduled for this afternoon.

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I have been doing tons of research over the last few months because I know the day will come. Though my laptop (Sheila) hasn’t died, I know she’ll be in a better place soon. I’ll need a replacement.

Top must haves:

  • Light
  • Messenger bag friendly
  • Lots of memory
  • Quick

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Let’s hope for the best and wish her a speedy recovery. I’ll need her for a few more weeks until I reach a decision. There are a couple of submission deadlines I need to meet by the end of the month!

I love you.

If you are reading this, I love you. We are all different. If we try to find some common ground, we can start to heal. Please be kind.

Healing thoughts

Mend the division

Love and let love

Drive your decisions

Look at the person beside you

Look into their eyes

Try to think about a day in their lives

Smile at someone

Show them peace

Prove that togetherness overcomes defeat

Lead by example

Show your colors

Love yourself

Love others

Ban these ways from being learned

So that our children may have a turn

To truly exemplify what it is to be one

We all reside under the same sun

The Power Behind Experience

I have been quite busy the last few weeks! I am in the midst of a few transitions (exciting ones) and look forward to regaining some normalcy. What is normalcy again? On Saturday, I woke up and watched one of my favorite movies (if not THE favorite). “Your move, chief.”

Good Will Hunting is one of those movies that I can rewatch over and over. Aside from Ben Affleck’s….Okay, I’ll leave that rant for another day. It’s a great movie. Matt Damon plays an arrogant character with lots of issues who is gifted with a brilliant mind. He is mentored by a widely recognized math professor who previously won an award comparable to the Nobel Peace Prize. He is forced to attend therapy sessions due to legal woes and begins to open up (slowly) to a character played by the late Robin Williams (Sean). While I have many favorite parts, both funny and sad, one sticks out right now.

Matt Damon (Will) and Robin Williams (Sean) are sitting on a bench after a tense moment a week or so before. Will critiques a painting near and dear to Sean’s heart. Sean is deeply affected by his words and appears pensive having a drink alone in his apartment. However, he realizes that Will is just a kid who knows of things but not from firsthand experience.

You’re just a kid. You don’t have the faintest idea what you’re talking about. (Why, thank you.) It’s all right. You’ve never been out of Boston. (Nope.) So if I asked you about art, you’d probably give me the skinny on every art book ever written. Michelangelo, you know a lot about him. Life’s work, political aspirations, him and the Pope, sexual orientation, the whole works, right? But I’ll bet you can’t tell me what it smells like in the Sistine Chapel. You’ve never actually stood there and looked up at that beautiful ceiling. Seen that. If I ask you about women, you’d probably give me a syllabus about your personal favorites. You may have even been laid a few times. But you can’t tell me what it feels like to wake up next to a woman and feel truly happy. You’re a tough kid. And I’d ask you about war, you’d probably throw Shakespeare at me, right: ‘Once more into the breach, dear friends.’ But you’ve never been near one. You’ve never held your best friend’s head in your lap, and watch him gasp his last breath looking to you for help. I’d ask you about love, you’d probably quote me a sonnet.

My stories are set in different places, many that I have yet to visit. I am recognizing the power behind experience and how it affects your thinking. In the next couple of months, I’ll be traveling to Iceland, London, and Dublin. I am confident this will open up the depths of my writing. New characters may come to mind, new perspectives may be incorporated, and new scenes will be captivated by the senses of my memory. I look forward to sharing some of my experiences as well as including them in future works. Someone once told me ‘visiting a different country amounts to the knowledge of reading 88 books’. This trip will be the first of many. Have you traveled recently? Have an upcoming trip? A traveler’s bucket list perhaps? I’d love to hear about it below!